It doesn’t matter how strong you think you are, the new normal has certainly tested our courage and resilience. It is only natural to get frustrated and frankly reasonable to be a bit despondent when there are constant obstacles to your success and barriers to growth. It is easy to question the way you are going and how to survive and thrive in the current environment. It is important to keep moving forward. Here are some key strategies to help when it comes to redefining resilience and believing that you have what it takes to push forward.
What is resilience?
Life doesn't come with a roadmap, but everyone will experience various everyday challenges from traumatic events with more lasting impact, like the death of a loved one, a life-altering accident, or a serious illness. Each of these events affects us differently, bringing unique personal feelings, emotions and uncertainty. Yet generally, we can adapt over time to these life-changing and stressful situations—in part thanks to resilience.
Psychologists define resilience as the process of adapting to adversity, trauma, tragedy, threats, or significant sources of stress—due to family and relationship problems, serious health problems, or work and finance stressors. Resilience involves “bouncing back” from these difficult moments in life and can also be the source of profound personal growth.
Here are a few ways to help you build your own resilience.
1. Remove Self Doubt
There are all sorts of ways self doubt seeps in. There are some people that are so immobilised with self doubt that they second-guess their every move, to the point where the limiting anxiety actually takes a hold. You have to remove self doubt from your life and trust that you know what you are doing. How are you going to reach a destination if you keep querying the paths? Whether it’s a person that is negative, a strategy that isn’t working, or simply a lifestyle that is leading to you doubting yourself - try to do everything you can to change the self talk that lead to self doubt anxiety. Try to build your own daily mantra for positive self talk.
2. Get Inspired
There are all sorts of ways to get inspired, but of course, this is quite an individual decision. You might be inspired by podcasts, while others are inspired by exercise. While a visit to the art gallery might bore someone else, it might be the most exciting thing you enjoy. Find out what inspires and energises YOU, and make sure to stay in tune with that feeling of inspiration to continue believing in yourself. It doesn’t matter if it’s a movie like Independence Day that helps you feel like you can beat the odds, or a podcast that offers you great knowledge or advice - as long as it helps you remain lifted and motivate to do what you want to accomplish.
3. Saying No
Those with low self-esteem often run into the situation where they are trying to please everyone. Our self esteem can be bolstered by helping others, which is one reason we are always willing to make sure that others around us are fulfilled. If we make others happy, or make sure that others like us, that it will somehow make US happy. In fact, most of the time, it’s the opposite.
The unfortunate truth is that there are many individuals that can detect when you have low self-esteem and will do everything they can to manipulate you, so that your lack of self-esteem works in their favour. They might be the type of individual who can’t pick up the phone when you call, but will always expect you to do the same. They might be upset when you can’t make it to an agreed catch up, but see no problem with flaking out on you. If you find that someone is only ever contacting you for a favour - saying no can actually help to lift you. This simply means that you are willing to put yourself first. You will respect yourself by doing this.
4. Be present with yourself and be proud
Every once in a while, it’s important to step back and take stock of your own accomplishments. Even if you aren’t where you planned, it can certainly help you to realise that how far you've come. Be grateful that for the opportunities and growth you've achieved. This can help to fuel the idea that you have come so far and have so much more to accomplish, which will help you to move ahead.
Mindful journaling, yoga, and other spiritual practices such as meditation can also help to build neurological connections and restore hope, which can prime you to deal with experiences that require resilience. When you journal and meditate on positive aspects of your life and recall the things you’re grateful for, this can help you to resonate with the positive aspects of your life.
5. Prioritise wellness and take care of your body.
Self-care may be a popular keyword these days, but it’s also an important practice for mental wellness and building resilience. That’s because stress and anxiety is as much a physical function as it is an emotional one. Promoting positive lifestyle factors like good nutrition, prioritise sleep, hydration, and regular exercise can strengthen your body to adapt to stress and reduce the effect of anxiety or depression.
We recommend building you own rituals, routines and self care practices and defining what makes you feel happy and builds on your self esteem to maintain your resilience.